Is being called the “Black Sheep” a bad thing?
According to Dictionary.com
Black Sheep – noun
a person who causes shame or embarrassment because of deviation from the accepted standards of his or her group.
Or the Urban Dictionary
black sheep . a term used to describe someone who feels left out in a family. Basically, the outcast of the family because they choose to do other things than live up to their parents’ standards.
Yes, the dictionary’s definition has negative connotations but let’s rethink this.
I must admit there are times in my life where I have felt like the “black sheep” whether it be in my family, at work or even with a group of friends.
…I was 13 and my dad passed away, …I married at 18 and started a family,…I went thru a divorce, …I moved away from the family 20 years ago,…I couldn’t help out a family member financially, … I’m overlooked at my job, …I’m not included in an outing or conversation with friends.
Does it or did it hurt to be ousted, to be left out? Yes!
Were some of the situations out of my control? Yes!
Have I since talked it out and put them behind me? Yes!
Was I really a “black sheep” as defined above? No!
I put that label on myself as did others. Maybe some people continue to consider me the “odd” one, the “troublemaker”, the “different” one of the family or group. Who knows? All I know is that in those few situations I mentioned above, the people that I really care about and those who truly care about me have talked out whatever differences we had and in mine and their eyes they see I’m not the defined “black sheep”.
In my mind, a “black sheep” is not what is defined in the dictionary.
My “Black Sheep” definition is…
a person who stands out and stands up for who they are and what that believe in, no matter what others may think. A leader!
So go ahead and think of me as the “black sheep”! I will wear that title proudly.
Rah Rah Black Sheep!